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Christian Marriage Renewal: Overcoming Negativity

Hateful comments amid speech bubbles, challenging Christian marriage transformation efforts online

Have you noticed how strangers on the internet often express hatred and say degrading things to people they’ve never met? At Turnaround Marriage, we’ve encountered all sorts of comments – from accusations that “Christianity is spousal abuse” to claims that “Marriage is the problem” and even personal attacks calling us “intellectually stunted.”

Years ago, these comments used to discourage and even derail us. But now they fuel our mission for Christian marriage renewal!

The Truth Behind the Negativity

The TRUTH is that so many people are hurting. And hurt people, hurt people. Certainly, many do hate God and His ways. Anger and hate fill many hearts. Many suffer in their marriages and have begun to believe nothing could ever change – that a painful, disconnected marriage is their destiny.

Often, it is NOT THEIR FAULT.

They have been trying to do marriage in their own way: the only way they knew how. Or in the way they were taught. Or in the way the culture has shown them. Only to learn over time that it was simply not working.

The Journey to Christian Marriage Transformation

That’s why people come to us. They have been working harder and harder doing what does not work. Maybe they have even “tried marriage help,” but their marriage did not change much.

Then, they come to us realizing that things need to truly change, that they need a better way of doing family, marriage…and even life.

And when they begin to do the necessary work…and learning how to align with God’s design for their lives and marriages – hope begins to flood in. Then, hope gives way to excitement. Then joy and fun!

Real Stories of Transformation

As one client just told us, “If you would have told me that things could change so quickly, I would not have believed you!”

We’ve worked with business owners, lawyers, truck drivers, teachers, doctors, executives, business professionals, construction workers, nurses, engineers, therapists, stay at home moms, and more. And they are usually amazed at how much they can heal, change, and grow in a short season.

God’s Role in Marriage Transformation

We are massively confident in our approach. Not just because we believe Turnaround Marriage is the best way to heal a marriage – but because we know the One who DOES the healing.

God has in His heart so much healing for His people! He is able to heal – but so often people choose the dysfunction instead of His plan (without seeing it). They believe that which is not true (Satan’s lies). And until someone helps to point those things out and shift their perspective, not much will change.

Our Unique Approach to Christian Marriage Transformation

Our strategy to help heal and strengthen the individual at the same time as the marriage is the best strategy out there, because if you are one flesh, you MUST work on both simultaneously.

It is amazing…and we have come to expect the miraculous. Because miracles are the norm!

Your Path to Marriage Transformation

So what about you!? Maybe things have been bad for a long time. Maybe you think you are just destined to be stuck. Maybe it feels like God won’t even answer your prayers.

We want to encourage you to begin the path of the impossible today:

  1. Check out our free masterclass, “The 5 Simple Shifts Christians Make to Turn their Marriage Around Quickly” at www.turnaroundmarriage.live
  2. Book a breakthrough call with us at www.turnaroundmarriage.com/call/

After you have seen the masterclass and it resonates with you, let’s hop on a call and have a powerful conversation about where you have been stuck. Let’s talk about what’s been so hard. But then we want to talk about the path of healing with you and the strategy and support you will need to get there.

Be prepared to take action on that call – be prepared to take the initiative to move forward starting that plan right away.

These steps could change your life like it has for hundreds of Christians.

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Contractual Love is Not Biblical Love

Illustration comparing Biblical love and contractual love in marriage

Have you ever wondered why so many Christian marriages are struggling?

The modern-day understanding of marital love is not Biblical love – it’s contractual love.

Essentially, “If you give to me, then I continue to give back,” or “If you will uphold your end of the deal, then I will uphold mine.” This is not Biblical, selfless, devoted, covenantal love.

But God is the God of covenantal love, and He has always loved His people this way. He made covenant promises with His people to protect them, deliver them, be present with them, and be faithful to them. Even when God’s people were not faithful, He was always faithful to His promises. And now, He loves us faithfully, and He pours out His love on us!

His love looks like 1 Corinthians 13:

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude; it is not self-seeking; it is not easily angered; it keeps no account of wrongs. Love takes no pleasure in evil but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails…”

This is what biblical marriage looks like.

This is the very definition of love…

that so many included in their marriage ceremonies – but many often forget this definition or let disappointments, hurts, and resentments cloud their understanding of love.

For so many, when they forget or hurt builds up with resentment and unresolved issues, Christians resort back to the world’s standards – which is, “You complete me…and if you don’t anymore, see ya later!”

Maybe they don’t go to the extreme of quitting just yet – but they certainly do not desire to uphold their side of their vows. Nor do they remember the love of Christ poured out upon them….daily.

And let’s be clear: Christians vowed to God even before they made vows to their spouses!

And when there have been years of disconnect, hurts, and resentments, a spouse can easily get to where they are nearly “done” and maybe even have given up.

It should have never gotten to this place. But it did, slowly.

Gradually.

So, what’s the answer for honorable but hurting Christians?

The Gospel

The Good News that though we have miserably failed at our side of things, God, in His mercy, offers forgiveness and grace to the repentant sinner through His Son Jesus.

God’s picture for love infused freshly in our marriage.

God’s design for marriage and family.

Godly wisdom, practical advice, encouragement, the right tools, and clearing out worldly ideas.

This is what is needed….

Many look for help.

What do you usually find?

A “Christian” helper that does not touch the Word of God.

Worldly “contractual love” advice.

Manipulative, catchy solutions to win your spouse in X days.

And these don’t work.

Of course, they don’t.

Because MOST of the marriage helps out there are nothing more than tricks, manipulations, and ways to convince your spouse to change or stay.

But the biggest problem with all of these?

They are NOT LOVE. Not marital love purely designed by our Creator. They are self-focused, self-serving, and completely focused on just getting what you want right now.

I talk to people every week who have tried these type of programs and they didn’t work.

And for a Christian, they won’t. And shouldn’t. Because we are to love Covenantally not contractually.

God has spoken: “I have loved you with an everlasting love”

If you have been looking for a pathway to heal your marriage, you need more of God, His Word, Godly encouragement, and an encouraging environment that leads to Gospel breakthroughs.

That’s how we designed Turnaround Marriage.

If you’re ready to learn how to heal from the past hurts, resentments, and disappointments, and are eager to infuse your marriage with covenantal love, I want to encourage to book a breakthrough call with us.

If you’re looking for more therapies, psycho-babble, or a place to complain – this is not for you.

But if you’re ready to take action and learn how to institute covenantal love into your marriage now, book that call here: www.turnaroundmarriage.com/call/

Scott & Rachel