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The Biblical Secret to Rekindle Marital Intimacy

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Are you searching for the biblical secret to rekindle marital intimacy? Many Christian couples find themselves drifting apart, wondering what happened to the soulmate they once adored. If you’re feeling emotionally distant or struggling to connect physically and spiritually, you’re not alone. The good news is that there’s a proven, biblical approach to restoring intimacy in your marriage.

Uncovering the Biblical Secret to Marital Intimacy

The real issue many couples face isn’t just disconnection – it’s the lack of a proven, biblical system for restoring intimacy. Our Turnaround Marriage Program has helped hundreds of Christian couples transform their relationships using a four-step framework rooted in biblical principles.

The 4-Step Biblical Approach to Rekindling Intimacy

1. Healing Past Hurts

The first step involves using forgiveness and exercises to let go of bitterness and resentment. This process allows couples to move beyond past wounds and create a fresh foundation for their relationship.

2. Rebuilding Trust

Next, we focus on rebuilding trust through effective communication exercises. These exercises come from a place of appreciation and understanding your differences as husband and wife. By learning to communicate effectively, couples can bridge the gaps that have formed in their relationship.

3. Resolving Conflicts

We then apply conflict resolution principles that really work. These techniques ensure that both partners can finally feel heard and understood without things escalating and without one or both shutting down. This step is crucial in creating a safe space for open and honest communication.

4. Meeting Emotional Needs

Finally, we guide couples in meeting each other’s core emotional needs consistently. This step also involves reconnecting deeply with God to step into your identity in Christ. By aligning your marriage with God’s design, you can experience a level of intimacy and connection you may have thought was lost forever.

Applying the Biblical Secret in Your Marriage

This biblical framework for rekindling marital intimacy has worked for countless couples, taking them from frustrated and fighting to close and connected in a matter of weeks. Let’s explore how you can apply this biblical secret to your own marriage.

We’ve seen remarkable transformations in couples like John and Janice, Roberto and Judith, Bert and Miriam, and Jeremy and Tracie, to name just a few in the last few weeks. These couples have experienced the joy of a rekindled, passionate, God-centered marriage.

Your Path to Marital Renewal

Isn’t it time you experienced the joyful, passionate, God-centered marriage you’ve been praying for? We offer a free breakthrough call where we can uncover the roots of what’s not working in your marriage and show you how to apply these strategies starting today.

Don’t delay – we have very few slots remaining this week. This could be the turning point your marriage needs.
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Remember, the proof is in the pudding. This approach has worked for countless couples, and it can work for you too. Take the first step towards rekindling your marital intimacy today.

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Biblical Guidance for Marriage Struggles: A Path to Healing

In the realm of marriage counseling, not all advice is created equal. As a marriage coach, I’ve encountered numerous couples who have received questionable guidance that often exacerbates their marital issues. Today, let’s explore why biblical guidance is crucial when navigating marriage struggles and how to find genuine Christian help.

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The Perils of Misguided Marriage Advice

Recently, I spoke with a struggling couple who shared a startling piece of advice they’d received from a professional: “Write down everything you don’t like about your spouse. That’s your homework.” This approach, far from fostering healing, can deepen resentment and widen the gap between partners.

Common Pitfalls in Seeking Marriage Help

It never ceases to amaze me how horrific most of the “marriage helps” are. But over and over, the story is the same: a Christian struggling in their marriage. And what does everyone do? Go get counseling. But the thing they do not often think about is: what if this person gives unbiblical/unwise advice that makes things worse? What if they say they are a “Christian Counselor” but maybe are not going to point them to the Lord’s design for marriage?

Real-Life Examples of Harmful Counseling

In the last week alone, I have encountered three different situations where Christians were struggling and went to the “Free counseling” provided by their insurance only to find it actually made things worse. In one case, they kicked the man out of the couples counseling to continue to help the woman “find what she wanted.”

Caveat: of course, there are times when an unrepentant spouse is damaging the relationship beyond repair and there needs to be boundaries that may seem harsh put into place for healing. But we are talking about poor advice and unbiblical counsel being dished out to Christians under the guise of Christian help that does more harm than good.

I could go on for days ranting. But the bottom line is this: be very careful where you get your help.

Choosing the Right Help for Your Marriage

When seeking guidance for your marriage struggles, consider these crucial factors:

Make sure they will unashamedly point you to the Truth and to God’s design for help. Make sure you get testimonials from other Christians too. Make sure they truly understand your problem before they offer a solution. Make sure they equip you with the mindset and the tools for a healthy marriage relationship. Make sure there is a plan with an end game of healing and restoration in your marriage – not just someone who will keep you locked into years of “help” that keeps you stuck. Ultimately, make sure they will point you to the Lord Jesus and His heart and plan for your marriage. For THAT is what you need most of all.

Taking the Next Step Towards Healing

Perhaps you are like a lot of people. You never dreamed you would be here. Maybe you’re even scared. You don’t know what to do. You talked to your pastor. You asked friends for prayer. You’ve tried many things and don’t know what to do.

So, in a world of all kinds of “helps” but most pointing away from the “Truth” what should you do?

If you are struggling in your marriage, let’s hop on a complimentary call and bring clarity to the heart of the issues in your marriage. Let us help you craft a vision for what you hope things can be. Let us point you in the direction of a solution with lasting healing. If we are certain we can help you, we will show you what that would look like. If you’re better served elsewhere, we will still lovingly point you to other Godly help. On this 45-minute call, you will know that you are in good hands. And then you can take that decisive action toward healing once and for all.

You can book that call by going to www.turnaroundmarriage.com/call/r marriage? Book your complimentary call today at www.turnaroundmarriage.com/call/

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Navigating Conflict in Marriage: A Coach’s Personal Journey

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As a marriage coach, I have a confession: I sometimes experience conflict in my own marriage. Shocking, I know. Dealing with conflict in marriage is a universal challenge, even for those who guide others through it. Recently, my husband Scott and I found ourselves in a disagreement, ironically just before our weekly training session with clients. This experience reminded me of the importance of addressing marital conflict effectively.

I honestly can’t remember the specifics of that argument, and it really doesn’t matter. The more I tried to “get my point across,” the more Scott seemed to misunderstand me. Before we knew it, we were in the middle of an argument. He felt I had chosen the worst possible time to address the issue, while I believed we needed to handle it before the call to get on the same page.

Neither of us was right or wrong.

The Pressure of Timing

As the clock ticked closer to 9 PM, when our training was set to start, our stress levels rose. We knew we needed to present ourselves as a strong team for our clients. Years ago, a disagreement like this would have spiraled into a full-blown fight, with Scott retreating and me chasing him around the house, frustrated and desperate to resolve things.

This is one of the old vicious cycles we had adopted, and we had gotten really good at it.

Thankfully, we have developed the skillset, mindset, and heart set to be able to recalibrate rather quickly, stay calm and not let anger, frustration, misunderstanding, or hurt feelings, and get back on the same team quickly, even if we disagree.

Understanding Conflict in Marriage

For every married couple, conflict is a part of living in a fallen world, where sin and selfishness, and corruption have marred our hearts and minds. But whether the conflict is the mainstay of your marriage or an occasional challenge to overcome, it is in direct proportion to your ability to communicate well with your spouse, regulate your own emotional state, and apply the gospel in practical ways to your situation.

The Dread of Marital Conflict

It comes down to how we think about conflict. For most folks, the thought of conflict brings a feeling of dread, a pit in the stomach that makes you sick.

For many, conflict is something to avoid because it’s just so uncomfortable.

But sweeping things under the rug to “avoid conflict” (as “Christian” as that sounds) is NEVER a good idea, in any relationship, but especially the marriage relationship. Those are the marriages that we see every day that seem fine for years, and one thing happens in the relationship that blows up, and what seems to be instantly the relationship is in crisis.

It’s like ignoring the pain in your side for years, pretending it’s not there until you find that you have cancer that not only has grown in your abdomen but has spread to other parts of your body, and you have only months to live. If only you had someone look under the hood to help you figure out what’s causing that pain EARLY ON and deal with it before it’s too late.

Breaking the Cycle of Conflict in Marriage

There’s this niggling belief that sometimes creeps into our marriage that because we sometimes have conflict in our marriage, we are frauds, we are imposters, and we are not really living our dream marriage.

Funny how these types of thoughts are just the ones that will send us down a tailspin of getting our eyes off of the prize of serving more couples out of marriages wrought with disconnection and conflict and focused on licking our own wounds in our marriage.

And funny how these are just the types of thoughts that keep so many couples stuck, not knowing how to handle the conflict that is inevitable, feeling like failures because there is conflict, or avoiding certain topics because you don’t want to hurt your spouse.

The Enemy is really tricky like that.

He’s a liar and a deceiver. He wants you to feel like a failure if you have conflict. He whispers his lies to you, that you shouldn’t disagree, that if your spouse really cared, they wouldn’t argue with you, that you should always get along great with amazing communication.

But the amazing thing is that we have learned to spot those lies NOW and get out of the funk before our own conflict escalates and we get off point of our God-given mission.

Finding Solutions for Marital Conflict

How about you? Are you sick and tired of living every day or week with massive conflict in your marriage, and you just wish you could learn the skill set to handle it?

Or have you and your spouse been sweeping things under the rug for so long, both of you honorable people not wanting to hurt the other person, but not knowing how to bring up difficult topics? If so, I’m sure you’re feeling disconnected from each other because although there may be a lack of conflict, there’s also no true intimacy or connection because you cannot be honest with each other.

If you’re sick and tired of having conflict in your marriage where things never feel resolved, and often the conflict escalates, we have something for you.

Or, if you’re sick and tired of sweeping things under the rug and having many topics which are taboo, which leaves you feeling lonely, isolated, and lacking true intimacy in your marriage, we have something for you as well.

Overcoming conflict in marriage is a skill that can be learned. Whether you’re dealing with frequent arguments or struggling with unaddressed issues, there are strategies to improve your relationship. Learning to navigate conflict effectively can transform your marriage from a battleground to a place of growth and intimacy.

We offer a free breakthrough call, where we dive deep into what’s not working in your marriage, what you dream and pray your marriage can be, and help you create a strategy to get you from where you are to where you want to go.

Helping our clients learn the secret to turning conflict into closeness is our specialty.

This could be the best 45 minutes you spend on your marriage.

Book that Breakthrough Call by going to www.turnaroundmarriage.com/call/

Talk Soon,

Rachel